Opening up closed adoption in Ireland
April 23, 2024

Irish- born adoptee Bernadette Covo explains her study of the personal experiences of individuals who, like her, have had closed adoptions.

 Most people don’t hesitate when they’re asked where they come from or who they got their eye colour from. They know the answers. They’re  part of their DNA – literally – and their identity. But people who’ve experienced a closed adoption can’t answer those seemingly straightforward questions, and they can feel awkward, sad, or even ashamed when they’re asked.

When I began my doctorate in psychotherapy research, I didn’t know what to study. Something relevant to my clients? DiJerent ideas came and went, but none stuck around. Although adoption was a subject that was personal to me and relevant to therapy clients, I initially dismissed the idea, because it had been researched to death – hadn’t it? All those children and adults over the decades throughout the world. There must be tons of studies on how they’ve fared, what they think and feel and how adoption has aJected them.

Well, no. Most of the research that has been done is of the medical kind. I found plenty of studies looking at whether we do better or worse in terms of mental health and ‘adjustment’ than non-adoptees. It was all about looking for diJerences, as part of an attempt to settle a debate about nature and nurture. Much of the research was from the USA and UK, both of which have had open adoption for several decades.

What was really missing from those decades of research was the voices of those most aJected: adoptees, first parents (there’s still almost no research on first fathers) and adoptive parents and siblings. Where they were asked, it was often about specific things like searching for first families. Rarely had adoptees been asked to tell their whole story. In the Irish context, first mothers were only interviewed in depth for the first time three years ago, by researchers from UCG. But anecdotally, there seems to have been a lot of silence, stigma, and shame for everyone touched by closed adoption.
Although there’s been a lot of political and legal change recently in Ireland, such as the Redress Scheme and the Birth and Information Tracing Act, these have come about without full consultation or adequate understanding. An example is the requirement to have spent at least 180 days in a mother and baby home, to be eligible for redress. That might be financially prudent for the government, but it shows a complete lack of understanding of people’s experiences, and risks adding insult to injury. Trauma doesn’t begin on day 181!

So I decided to research the experience of Irish people who have had closed adoptions, giving them a chance to share their stories in full. I’ll be interviewing a small number of people in depth to hear about how their adoption has aJected them, their loved ones, and their lives.

I hope the study will raise awareness of adoptees’ experiences, so that fellow adoptees don’t feel so isolated – when we’re seen for who we are, we feel more at home in ourselves. I also hope that I will help to change the conversation in Ireland, so that the shame and stigma are no longer borne by adoptees and their loved ones, but by the institutions of church and state who failed us in the past and continue to do so.

I’ve recruited several participants already, and am looking for two or three more whose experience matches the flyer. If that’s you, I’d love you to get in touch. Everyone who takes part will receive a copy of the findings, and anyone can contact me to stay informed about the study and receive a copy too.

Are you open to discussing your experience and the significance of it for you and your loved ones?
• Share your story in a confidentinal online interview, for an in-depth research study.
• Participants will receive a copy of the key insights and findings from the study.
• Email Bernadette Covo, researcher, at 06208@metanoia.ac.uk, to find out more.

Lá Mór na Gaeilge - Irish Language Day 2025

January 24, 2025
The Coventry Irish Society are delighted to open registration for this year’s Lá na Gaeilge / Irish Language Day which will take place on Saturday 8 March 2025, for all levels, as part of the Coventry Irish Society’s St Patrick’s Festival and Seachtain na Gaeilge 2025 (Irish language week). 1. Taster Irish Language Class Áit / Location: Ground Floor, Quaker Meeting House, Hill Street, Coventry CV1 4AN Arrival: 9.15 – 9.25 am Session ends approximately 11.10 am to allow a short break before the next activity. The group are welcome to stay together, on location, during the break. Múinteoir / Teacher: Nollaig Doughan The session will be suitable for all levels and will include various activities, including the opportunity to learn the Irish National Anthem, as Gaeilge (which might come in handy for the rugby later!). 2. Síulóid / Bilingual Walking Tour of Coventry 12.00: A fascinating síulóid /walking tour around historical city centre sites will be led by Christy Evans and will take approximately one hour. Christy writes a column, in Irish, for The Irish World. Christy is a gaeilgeoir and has dedicated his life to teaching and promoting Irish. His notable achievements include being the European Commission Language Ambassador for Irish, Winner of The Pride of Ireland Award 2007, and Founder of Coláiste na nGael. Coláiste na nGael - Wikipedia Christy has written a short Irish / English guide booklet on Coventry and this will be provided to participants on the day. The meeting point and end location are TBC, but will be around the Cathedral / Broadgate area of Coventry. Adults booked on the tour may bring children with them, free of charge (1x child per parent / guardian / carer who is fully responsible for the child’s supervision and care at all times). Please ensure that a child’s place is booked in advance, at the same time as purchasing the adult’s ticket. Attendees should wear comfortable footwear and suitable outdoor clothing as this will be an outdoor event. They may also wish to bring a drink / light snack. 3. Free-time or option to join the language group for the Six Nations Rugby (Ireland v France) Áit / location: The Hearsall Inn, Craven Street, Coventry CV5 8DS Am / Time: approximately 1.45 pm – 4.15 pm. This part of the day is not formally organised by the Coventry Irish Society and so we cannot reserve seating (or control the result!!), but we do hope that Irish speakers will stay together to keep speaking Irish and to sing the Anthem, as Gaeilge! 4. 7.00 pm Pop Up Gaeltacht & Bilingual Quiz Áit / Location: The Hearsall Inn, Craven Street, Coventry CV5 8DS Am / Time: 7.00 pm – 9.00 pm Over 18s only Tickets Adult Full Day Ticket £10 members / £12 non-members. This includes the Taster Session, Walking Tour & Evening Quiz. Adult Half Day Ticket £6 members / £8 non-members. This includes the Walking Tour & Evening Quiz. This will be a popular day and advance booking is essential. Places are limited and will be allocated on a first-come, first-serve basis. Tickets do not include food / drink. Admission to watch the rugby game is free. Please contact Caroline Brogan, at caroline.brogan@covirishsoc.org.uk or telephone 024 7625 6629, or visit our office at Eaton House during office hours, to obtain a booking form and arrange advance payment. On receipt of payment, a confirmation email will be sent to you as proof of booking. Leibhéal / Level: The day is suitable for all levels, from fluent speakers, to beginners. Where possible, we will try to tailor the level of Irish to the attendee. All activities will be bilingual.

Registration for Spring term now open - Scoil Ghaeilge Margaret Keane - The Margaret Keane Irish Language School

January 20, 2025
We’re delighted that our Irish Language School, named after the late Margaret Keane, is returning for a Spring term from February 2025. This 8 week course will commence on Thursday 20 February 2025 and will run until Thursday 17 April. The Spring Term class will continue to use the below text book and will pick up where they left off at the end of the Autumn Term 2024. The course book is not included within the cost of the course fee and students may wish to purchase this themselves. For anyone who missed the Autumn Term but who would like to join the Spring Term course, then they are very welcome. As the classes will be continuing from work covered in the Autumn Term, those registering this term will need to have some basic level of Irish. £55 per student for members of the Coventry Irish Society / £60 per student for non- members. The course fee is for a course consisting of 8x classes and is payable in advance to the Coventry Irish Society by 12 February 2025. Please contact Caroline Brogan: caroline.brogan@covirishsoc.org.uk or telephone 024 7625 6629 to obtain a booking form. Registration closes 12 February 2025. Would you like to write for our website? We would like to include a section on our website dedicated to An Ghaeilge. If you may be able to provide a few hours volunteering time to help us write a welcome section, as Gaeilge, with links to helpful resources, then that would be ar fheabhas! Please contact our Caroline Brogan: caroline.brogan@covirishsoc.org.uk if you may be able to help.

Meet the author - Dennis Carey

January 9, 2025
If it’s a land war they want, there are people prepared to fight back. In 2016 Mayo-born author, Dennis Carey, released An Untilled Field, a historical story of the violent eviction of the Walshe family in 1870s rural Ireland. Based on true events the story focused on sixteen-year-old Liam Walshe who watched his parents being taken away by the Royal Irish Constabulary leaving him homeless and caring for his four-year-old brother Aiden. As his adventure unfolds, Liam makes contact with representatives of the Irish National Land League, the organisation founded at the Imperial Hotel in Castlebar in 1879 to fight for justice for land tenants. Almost nine years later, Dennis has released the book’s gripping sequel, Land Wars. The stories are set, predominantly, in County Mayo during the Irish Land Wars of the late 1800s. In both books, Dennis draws on actual events in England and Ireland to bring the harsh history of this period to life on the page. “I owed it to young Liam Walshe and the other main characters in the first book to continue their story,” Dennis said. “Unfortunately, in the sequel, life doesn’t get any easier for Liam and his family. If anything, it gets more dangerous.” Dennis has been writing since leaving Further Education in August 2014. This is his fifth novel. Along with An Untilled Field his other titles are The Ditcher, Sins of the Mothers, and Killing Alma. He will be here at Coventry Irish Society on Tuesday 28 th January 2025 at 2.00pm to talk about the books and the inspiration behind them. Copies of all of his books will be available to sign and dedicate after the talk.
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